When life becomes challenging or confusing, I'd like to help sort it out. My training and experience with individuals and a variety of family constellations prepare me to help you better access strengths, new perspectives, and movement forward.
Coronavirus Stress. These unusual times impact each of us uniquely. Staying home with family can become intense. Singles who wish to be coupled can feel isolated. Parents who never thought of teaching are teaching while keeping the home and jobs going. This is a time that can put a magnifying glass on stressors, amplify strengths, and challenge us to reflect on the course of our lives.
• Feeling stuck. You might be feeling stuck in marriage, single adulthood, parenthood, your job or life in general. You’re not alone.
• Career changes. A job loss or change can shake up your sense of purpose. We'll work together to find your way back.
• Estranged from family. Alienation from family members is painful for everyone involved. We can look at your choices while keeping perspective.
• Adjusting to adulthood. Leaving college and starting life as an adult is rarely an easy transition. I can help you think while guiding you toward your future.
• Newly single. Your new beginning starts with a clear ending, and it's difficult to adjust to that ending. Support and guidance can ease the process.
• Couples. You may be deciding whether to get married, get divorced, or just getting through a rough patch. I listen to each individual as well as the couple.
While you might typically navigate life’s transitions just fine, a big shake-up can be an opportunity for significant change.
Call or email to arrange a time for a free phone consultation. We can chat about your concerns and efforts you’ve already made to address them.
We'll talk about where you are right now, and whether or not you have an idea of where you'd like to go. While therapy isn't always a predictable process, knowing where we're starting from can help us establish a road map.
In the wake of the coronavirus pandemic there is exhaustion. I offer this poem by John O’Donohue, from his book: To Bless the Space Between Us: A Book of Blessings
For One Who Is Exhausted, A Blessing
“When the rhythm of the heart becomes hectic,
Time takes on the strain until it breaks;
Then all the unattended stress falls in
On the mind like an endless, increasing weight.
The light in the mind becomes dim.
Things you could take in your stride before
Now become laborsome events of will.
Weariness invades your spirit.
Gravity begins falling inside you,
Dragging down every bone.
The tide you never valued has gone out.
And you are marooned on unsure ground.
Something within you has closed down;
And you cannot push yourself back to life.
You have been forced to enter empty time.
The desire that drove you has relinquished.
There is nothing else to do now but rest
And patiently learn to receive the self
You have forsaken in the race of days.
At first your thinking will darken
And sadness take over like listless weather.
The flow of unwept tears will frighten you.
You have traveled too fast over false ground;
Now your soul has come to take you back.
Take refuge in your senses, open up
To all the small miracles you rushed through.
Become inclined to watch the way of rain
When it falls slow and free.
Imitate the habit of twilight,
Taking time to open the well of color
That fostered the brightness of day.
Draw alongside the silence of stone
Until its calmness can claim you.
Be excessively gentle with yourself.
Stay clear of those vexed in spirit.
Learn to linger around someone of ease
Who feels they have all the time in the world.
Gradually, you will return to yourself,
Having learned a new respect for your heart
And the joy that dwells far within slow time.”
by John O’Donohue